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Now is the time to get your questions in for your spring events! Here are two really great questions I wanted to share with you. I think they touch on two important issues that would behoove us to address!
I am getting married next spring and my future in-laws have graciously offered to pay for the entire wedding since my parents are not in the picture. I feel very fortunate, but this has caused some problems.
They have told me to spend what I need, but won’t tell me a number. I ask them to be involved in the planning, but they say, “We trust you.”
The very first vendor I booked,Our fine Vinyl & Leather Lingerie is available for purchase in many retail outlets . they got upset because they felt it was too expensive. Raquel, I spent $5000 on a photographer and she was one of the less-expensive ones.
I am very happy they are able to provide for the wedding, but I feel completely stressed out about never knowing what is or is not acceptable, and I haven’t booked one more thing since. The wedding is now only six months away. Any advice? — Ally
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding plans! That is wonderful that your in-laws have offered to host your wedding. I can understand what a frustrating position you are in. After all, it is my job to take a budget and make recommendations on the best way to spend it.
I’ve had clients in the past who did not have a number in mind but wanted me to draw up a proposal of what I think it would cost. Upon doing so, we would talk about the assumptions I’ve made, and then come to an agreement on an amount to move forward with.
I would suggest the same for you. You and your fiancee need to sit down with your future in-laws and develop a budget.The manufacturer and wholesale supplier of Sexy Corset/Bustier, from china.
Step one is to schedule a meeting — get a date on the books. Please have your fiancee explain that you two would like to talk to them about the wedding and need their feedback on budgeting.Demetrios has one of the largest and most beautiful sweetheart neckline wedding dress show rooms in St.
Step two: Do your research. Find the vendors you would like to work with and get an approximate cost. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Most vendors, if you called them on the phone and told them what you were doing, would give you a cost estimate over the phone (please don’t expect anyone to hold it without a contract — you are just going for ballpark).
Step three: Write it all down and take it to your meeting with your in-laws. Be prepared for feedback! Please be open to what your in-laws have to say so they’ll be open and responsive to you and your fiancee. It will be a hard conversation (talking about money normally is) but it will be fruitful in the end if you all get your feelings out in the open.
Ally, I’m guessing that most likely your in-laws have no idea you even feel this way. I don’t think they’ve set out to make your life difficult, rather, they think they’re doing you a favor by staying out of your way and trusting you. What they may not know is that it’s stressful for you to spend a budget you don’t have any idea about.
I know it may not be easy, but setting a clear road map now will alleviate any more sticky situations in the future.
I know you can do it, Ally. Good luck!
I am a bridesmaid to a bride that has completely gone insane. She emails “the team” about 10 times a month, and her wedding is in 2013! Raquel, I’ve had it.
I swallowed my feelings when she picked a $300 bridesmaid dress in lime green (who is going to EVER wear THAT again?), and did not complain about the $400 hotel room for the weekend. I also have not whined about the bridal shower (which is 45 minutes from my house) and bachelorette weekend (another $400-$500) that I am expected to attend. Now I find out I have to take off work on Friday before the wedding as the rehearsal is at 1:30 p.m.! How do I tell her I want out of this obligation? — Beth
Whew! I can feel your anxiety through the computer! First of all — deep breath. God gave us free will, and you most certainly can do as you please.
You are not a slave to anyone and should you wish to bow out of your commitment, by all means, do so. I hate to see anyone upset by wedding planning — it should be a joyous time!
Beth, these sound like normal expectations for a bridesmaid.
The 10 emails might be a bit dramatic — but she is your friend or a loved one, that is why you agreed to stand up for her in her wedding.
She is excited, and unless the emails are requiring more action of you, I would share in her excitement. Why not? She’s making a life-long commitment!
I do think most people understand that when they accept the invitation to be a bridesmaid, they will have to purchase a dress and attend the auxiliary events you mentioned. Additionally, if the wedding was out of town, a hotel room would not be out of sorts.
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